Wednesday, May 21, 2008

marriage


I did in 35 minutes, I think! The subject was a little better than usual... still, not so much to say aout it...

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What is the best age to marry? Give reasons and examples to support your answer.

Arguing about the best age to marry is almost as difficult as arguing about the best age to fall in love. Personally, I do not really believe there is one perfect age to get married. I believe, instead, that people are different, they have different values, different backgrounds and different ideas. It is hard, then, to determine one thing that would fit all. In terms of getting married, one should just feel when it is the right moment. However, we can try to be more objective and consider important factors that would make a marriage work.

First of all, in order to get married, people should already have a clear idea of what they want in their life and what they want from their marriage. Young men and women in their 20s usually do not have a clear idea of what they expect from marriage as well as of what they really want in their life. Usually, when they get married at this young age, they mostly believe that love and passion will be enough to make a marriage work. After a few years, though, they might find out that the person they married is changing, is pursuing different goals and believing in different values, and this would lead to unhappiness or even divorce. People in their 30s, instead, should already have a clear idea of what they expect from their marriage as well as from their lives. This would generally make them more mature to face such a big commitment as marriage.

We also cannot forget another important factor: a young couple that has recently gotten married will need a place to stay, and will therefore have to cope with bills, rent, groceries, etc. If the couple is young, they are unlikely to have their career going. They have probably just entered the job market and have no financial security. On the other hand, people in their 30s are supposed to have started their career already and should earn enough money to settle down and have a family. It might sound rather anti-romantic, but money does play a big role in keeping a healthy marriage. Lack of money would promote stress in the young couple and this would lead to big fights and unhappiness.

From the reasons we just presented, the logical conclusion would be that there actually is a best age to marry, which is when people reach a certain maturity as well as a certain financial security. However, I still do not feel I can say it is not advisable to get married young. In fact, marriage is for me a really romantic decision taken by two people, and, no matter what happens next, I still believe there is no wrong marriage. The important is that, when two people decide to get married, they really mean it and they want it to last happily ever after.

2 comments:

language4you said...

Wow! Working hard on your essay writing, I see. :)

adry mendes said...

trying to...I`m taking the test on June 21st...I still have one month to get ready. I hope I`ll do well, but I really need a high score and I'm not sure I can do this...:S I`m crossing my fingers and getting some exercises done.